Managing Difficult People: A Survival Guide for Handling Any Employee

Marilyn Pincus

Adams Media Corp.

They are everywhere, even at work. Especially at work. They are the Complainer, the Knowit- All, the Manipulator, the Procrastinator, and many others. As a co-worker you might have just had to tolerate them. As a learning executive you might be called on to deal with them via the power of learning. (That's a fancy way of saying that the someone has dumped the problem on you.) "You can learn how to handle problem employees three ways: figure it out for yourself, get a great mentor, or read this book," writes an online review of this book. "Designed primarily for managers rather than human resources professionals, it's a handy guide to different problem personalities." As the book's publisher notes: "The last thing you need is an unruly employee whose chronic "negaholic" attitude upsets your office applecart and affects the morale of your entire staff."

Since Strangling Isn't an Option

Sandra A. Crowe

Penguin Group (USA)

It seems that even among readers of advice books there are those who love them and others who just want to heap criticism on them. This book appears to have big fans and big haters, if online reviews are any indication. One reviewer was nice enough to describe it as: "A lighthearted, anger-free approach to a frustrating problem." Of course, that was among reviews provided by the book's publisher. Another reviewer was less cheerful when she wrote: "This is another book in a seemingly unending line of books cranked out by psychologists and self-styled psychologists that only really succeeds in one thing: describing what it is to be human and LABELING IT."

Thank You for Being Such a Pain: Spiritual Guidance for Dealing with Difficult People

Mark I. Rosen

Random House

"Some people really are bad people," this book's author told The New York Times. "But I don't think the percentage is as high as people think it is." He added that most people fall into the category of "incompetent or oblivious." One has to wonder: is that some sort of improvement? Does the fact that co-workers are rude, insipid, selfish, or otherwise maladjusted without being aware of it somehow make it easier on the rest of us? If, as the experts suggest, we can't do anything about people who bother us, this book may help us control our own responses.

Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life

Sam Horn

St. Martin's Press

"The subtitle of Horn's treatise indicates just how much psychological ground he manages to cover in this encouraging how-to. Not just for kids on the playground anymore, bullying can have serious consequences for adults: violence, lawsuits, abuse, and even death," writes Publishers Weekly. This book might be just a tad too flip to use as a guide in a difficult workplace situation. Horn's sometimes too-cute writing ("Stop paying the price of nice" and "Savior self from martyrs and guilt-mongers," for example) might make you want to toss this book at the troublemaker, as opposed to talking with him or her.